Celebrations gone bust

One desire of my heart is to have a well built in Ashlynne's name.  It's through an organization called Holden's Uganda.  (www.holdenuganda.org). Not only does it give me something tangible for Ashlynne, it helps hundred's if not thousands of people in Uganda have clean drinking water.  I think it such an amazing way to honor her.  However, I seem to alone in my need to remember Ashlynne in tangible ways.  My family seems to think I've lost my mind.  They look at me sideways at the mention of building this well or even wanting to do a celebration of Ashlynne's heavenly birthday.  I see so many women doing these things for their babies and their families and friends surrounding them and I feel isolated and alone.  My own husband doesn't understand.  He wants to silently remember her and not put on a production.  I feel like I can't move forward the I want, I can't honor her the way I want, I can't have something tangible for her.  My heart is still broken and it continues to break as I try to heal but heal alone without my families support.